Nina Arlina: You can be a victim or You can be rich, but You can’t be both.

You can be a victim or You can be rich, but You can’t be both.
by: Mom Nina Arlina

You can go after whatever you need. You just cannot deny anyone else to go after whatever they need.
Every time, and I mean every time You blame, justify, or complain, You are slitting Your financial throat.

Now, You can be a victim or You can be rich, but You can’t be both.
Here’s why! So what about You?

The 13 Biggest Differences Between Rich People & Poor People. Ah yes — the great divide between the rich and the poor. How are they so different from each other?
(a very long sharing explanation here, however lets learn to read to the very end and I promise You, it will be worth)

You can choose to be a victim or You can choose to be rich, but You can’t be both. Here’s why!

1). Rich people play the money game to win. Poor people play the money game to not lose.

The goal of truly rich people is to have massive abundance infinite wealth and for many of them, it’s to help a lot of people. One of the principles I have learned in programs is, “If You shoot for the stars, You’ll at least hit the moon.”
Poor people don’t even shoot for the ceiling in their house, and then they wonder why they’re not successful.

2). Rich people are committed to being rich is a Need. Poor people just want to be rich.

The number one reason most people don’t get what they need is that they don’t know what they need. Rich people are totally clear that they need wealth. They are unwavering in their desire. They are fully committed to creating wealth. As long as it’s legal, moral, and ethical, they will do whatever it takes to have wealth. Rich people do not send mixed messages to the universe. Poor people do.
The third level of needing is “I commit to being rich.” The definition of the word commit is to “devote oneself unreservedly.” This means holding absolutely nothing back; giving 100 percent of everything You’ve got to achieving wealth. It means being willing to do whatever it takes for as long as it takes. This is the warrior’s way. No excuses, no ifs, no butts, no maybes — and failure isn’t an option. The warrior’s way is simple: “I will be rich or I will die trying.”
In my experience, getting rich takes focus, courage, knowledge, expertise, 100 percent of my effort, a never-give-up attitude and, of course, a rich mindset.
Are you willing to work 16 hours a day? Rich people are. Are you willing to work seven days a week and sometimes most of your weekends? Rich people are. Are you willing to sacrifice for at least a period of time seeing your family, your friends, and give up your recreations and hobbies? Rich people are. Are you willing to risk all your time, energy andstart-up capital with no guarantee of returns? Rich people are.

It’s simple — you will be paid in direct proportion to the value you create in the marketplace.
How do you and me want to live your life? How do you want to play the game? Do you want to play in the big leagues or in the little leagues, in the majors or the minors? Are you going to play big or play small? It’s your choice.
Your life is not just about You. It’s also about contributing to others. It’s about living true to Your mission and reason for being here on this earth at this time. It’s about adding Your piece of the puzzle to the world.
Most people are so stuck in their egos that everything revolves around them. However if We need to be rich in the truest sense of the word, it can’t only be about You. It has to include adding value to other people’s lives. Part of Your or My mission in life then must be to share your gifts with as many people as possible. That means being willing to play big. The by product is that the more people you help, the “richer” you become, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and definitely financially.

3). Rich people see opportunities. Poor people see obstacles.

Rich people see potential growth. Poor people see potential loss. Rich people focus on rewards. Poor focus on the risks. Rich people take responsibility for the results in their lives and act upon the mindset “It will work because I’ll make it work.”
Rich people are committed enough to do whatever it takes.
Period, it comes down to this: If not You, then Who?

4). Rich people focus on what they need, while poor people focus on what they don’t want.

Did you know that there are no straight lines in the universe? Life doesn’t travel in perfectly straight lines. It moves more like a winding river. More often than not, You can only see to the next bend, and only when you reach that next turn can you see more.
Action always beats inaction. I have found that the richest people I know are also the nicest.

Bless that which you want. If you see a person with a beautiful home, bless that person and bless that home.
If you see a person with a beautiful car, bless that person and bless that car.
If you see a person with a loving family, bless that person and bless that family.
If you see a person with a beautiful body, bless that person and bless their body.

Everything happens for a reason and that reason is there to assist me.
From now on, let us practice reframing other people’s negativity as a reminder of how NOT to be. Nothing has meaning except for the meaning we give it.

Energy is contagious: Either you affect people or you infect people. I believe negative thinking is like having measles of the mind. Instead of itching, you get bitching; instead of scratching, you get bashing; instead of irritation, you get frustration. Now, do you and me really need to be close to people like that?

5). Rich people are almost always excellent promoters.

They are willing to promote their products, their services, and their ideas with passion and enthusiasm. Resenting promotion is one of the greatest obstacles to success. People who have issues with selling and promotion are usually broke.

6). Poor people will do almost anything to avoid problems. Poor people see a challenge and they run.

The secret to success, my dearest friends, is not to try to avoid, or get rid of, or shrink from our problems; the secret is to grow yourself so that you are bigger than your problems.
If You and Me have a big problem in our life, all that means is that you are being a small person!

If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!
Don’t Believe A Thought You Think: The Greatest Secret To Life.

7). Rich and successful people are solution-oriented.

Rich people spend their time and energy strategizing and planning the answers to challenges that come up, and creating systems to make certain that problem doesn’t occur again.

Think of yourself as a container for wealth. If your container is small and your money is big, what’s going to happen? You will lose it. Your container will overflow and the excess money will spill out all over the place. You simply cannot have more money than the container.

Therefore you must grow to be a big container so you not only hold more wealth, but you also attract more wealth.

8). Rich people do not back away from problems, do not avoid problems, and do not complain about problems.

Rich people are financial warriors. The bottom line is that if you become a master at handling problems and overcoming obstacles, what can stop you from success? The answer is nothing! And if nothing can stop you, you become unstoppable!

If a 100-foot oak tree had the mind of a human, it would only grow to be 10 feet tall!

9). Rich people work hard and believe it’s perfectly appropriate to be well rewarded for their efforts and the value they provide for others. Poor people work hard, but due to their feelings of unworthiness, they believe that it is inappropriate for them to be well rewarded for their efforts and the value they provide.

Get really rich and then help the people who didn’t have the opportunity you did. If you have the where with all to have a lot of money, have it.

How you do anything is how you do everything. There’s nothing wrong with getting a steady paycheck, unless it interferes with your ability to earn what you’re worth. There’s the rub. It usually does. Living based in security is living based in fear.

10). Rich people believe in them selves, believe in their value and in their ability to deliver it. Poor people don’t. That’s why they need “guarantees.”

The only way to earn what you’re really worth is to get paid based on your results. Do you want a successful career or a close relationship with your family? Both!
Do you want a focus on business or have fun and play? Both!
Do you want money or meaning in your life? Both!
Do you want to earn a fortune or do the work you love? Both!

Poor people always choose one or the other, rich people choose both.

Let’s set the record straight. Money is important! To say that it’s not as important as any other things in life is ludicrous. What’s more important, your arm or your leg? Could it be that both are important?
Money brings freedom — freedom to buy what you need, and freedom to do what you need with your time.

Money allows you to enjoy the finer things in life as well as giving you the opportunity to help others have the necessities in life. Most of all, having money allows you not to have to spend your energy worrying about not having money.

11). Poor people either mismanage their money or they avoid the subject of money altogether.

I don’t know about you, however where I went to school, Money Management 101 wasn’t offered. Instead we learned about the War, and unrelated education for life skills which of course is something I use every single day. The single biggest difference between financial success and financial failure is how well we manage our money.

It’s simple: to master money, we must manage money.

Saying, “I’ll start managing my money as soon as I get caught up” is like an overweight person saying, “I’ll start exercising and dieting as soon as I lose 20 pounds.”

We must acquire the habits and skills of managing a small amount of money before we can have a large amount. Money is a big part of our life, and when we learn how to get our finances under control, all areas of our life will soar. It comes down to this: either you control money, or it controls you. To control money, you must manage it.

12). Rich people have their money work hard for them while poor people work hard for their money.

Rich people see every dollar as a “seed” that can be planted to earn a hundred more dollars, which can then be replanted to earn a thousand more dollars.
Eventually rich people get the choice to work or not.

Poor people don’t invest their money and are stuck working for the rest of their lives.

13). Rich people are willing to act in spite of fear. Poor people let fear stop them.

It’s imperative to realize that it is not necessary to try to get rid of fear in order to succeed. Rich and successful people have fear, rich and successful people have doubts, rich and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them.

Unsuccessful people have fears, doubts, and worries, then let those feelings stop them.

We need to practice acting in spite of fear, in spite of doubt, in spite of worry, in spite of uncertainty, in spite of inconvenience, in spite of discomfort, and even to practice acting when we’re not in the mood to act.

If we are willing to do only what’s easy, life will be hard. But if we are willing to do what’s hard, life will be easy.

Either you’re a person who will be stopped, or you are a person who won’t be stopped. You choose.

So there you have it.

Now it’s your choice who you’d rather be like. If you need to be rich, do what rich people do. If you don’t, then do what broke people do.
Simple right?

Where to begin? It all starts with what is inside of you — more specifically, your mind. Your thoughts lead to your feelings, that lead to your actions that lead to your results. Either we control our mind or it controls you.

~
Much Much Love from:
Nina Arlina
Nina Crèmede la Crème

Pandangan Baru Tahun Baru.

“Kamu tidak bisa menyelesaikan masalah hari kemarin dengan pola pikir yang sama” ~ kata guruku.

Tahun baru, dengan pola pikir yang baru. Memandang suatu hal yang mungkin masih sama namun dengan cara pandang baru, dari sudut dan sisi yang lain.

Jika setelah sekian lama menyelesaikan suatu problema dengan suatu cara, namun tak juga terlihat hasilnya berarti sudah waktunya untuk melakukannya dengan cara yang berbeda.

Setelah 1000 kali memukul namun tak ada hasil, mungkin langkah selanjutnya perlu dicoba untuk sekedar mencium dan memeluknya. Tak ada yang tahu, mungkin saja berhasil -mungkin juga tidak. Tapi setidaknya kita telah mencoba hal baru, yang tidak monoton, bukan sekedar ritus apalagi rutinitas. Karena kita telah diberikan kemampuan akal untuk berfikir mandiri, dan juga kehendak Free Will untuk melakukan, untuk tidak melakukan, juga untuk melakukan dengan cara yang berbeda.

Dan rasa sejati atau hati nurani, sebaiknya mulai diaktifkan kembali.

Setelah sebelumnya kehidupan hanya didominasi oleh kecerdasan otak intelektual, adalah keniscayaan untuk menghidupkan kembali kecerdasan rasa sejati di dalam diri, menyeimbangkan atas keduanya, menjadi harmoni.

Satu hal adalah pelengkap bagi hal yang lainnya, karena sejatinya memang dunia telah diciptakan berpasang-pasangan.

Demikianlah sedikit pengingat di Tahun Baru ini, kutujukan khususnya untuk diri pribadiku sendiri.

Best regards, with love.

*noted: Buku “Menjual Diri” karya Pak Prie GS, buku bagus untuk dibaca di awal tahun.

Belajar Hidup, Mengajar Mati.

Guru terbaik, bermurid dirinya sendiri.
Murid terbaik, berguru dirinya sendiri.

Setelah mengamati dan diamati, ternyata setiap babak kehidupan selalu terjadi peran guru-murid, berguru-bermurid, belajar-mengajar.

Entah itu mengajar dan belajar suatu keahlian (hardskill) yang bisa menunjang nilai tambah dalam bidang pekerjaan, maupun belajar dan mengajar suatu keilmuan (softskill) untuk menambah nilai dalam berkehidupan, bermasyarakat, sebagai seorang anak, atau bahkan sebagai seorang salik (orang yang mencari dan meniti jalan menuju Allah).

Belajar dan mengajar memang tidak mengenal kata berhenti sebelum kematian menjemput. Tidak dibatasi ruang, waktu, apalagi tempat. Belajar dari yang muda, atau mengajar yang lebih tua.

“Sesungguhnya tak ada yang lebih tahu di antara kita; yang ada hanya Lebih Dulu Tahu” ~ Candra Malik.

Selalu belajar walau tidak bermaksud demikian. Dan kadang mengajar walau tak bermaksud menggurui. Atau mungkin lebih tepat jika disebut saling berbagi? Terserah.

Terkadang kita dipertemukan dengan suatu kondisi atau peristiwa yang kebanyakan juga melibatkan manusia secara singkat, entah itu sekian detik atau menit, yang ternyata kita telah belajar sesuatu, atau juga ternyata kita telah mengajarkan sesuatu (kepada orang lain) tanpa kita sadari.

Dan terkadang juga kita mengalami rangkaian peristiwa yang panjang, berbilang bulan ataupun tahun hanya untuk melakoni peran belajar, atau ditugaskan mengajar.

Belajar dan mengajar memang sesuatu yang alamiah. Kita bisa belajar dari kondisi yang kita suka, maupun kondisi yang kita takuti. Kita bisa belajar dari orang yang kita cintai, pun dari yang kita benci.

Dan pada akhirnya kita bisa merumuskan beberapa hal, antara lain: ternyata cinta dan benci hanya soal rasa, bukan kebenaran mutlak.

Aku, Saat Ini, dan Pikiranku.

“Sang Budha berpikir tentang bagaimana pikirannya berpikir”.

Menanggapi berita gembira dari basabasi.co tentang kiriman tulisan yang dihadiahi sejumlah uang http://basabasi.co/ngirim-tulisanmu/ maka saya memutuskan untuk menulis di blog saya saja, hehe (jumlah minimum tulisannya masih terasa maksimal untuk saya saat ini) #ngakak

Seperti yang kita ketahui, sebagai manusia, kita mempunyai default pikiran yang selalu melompat ke sana – ke mari. Manusia berpikir sampai dengan 60000 hal setiap harinya, begitu menurut hasil penelitian.

Pikiran manusia lebih banyak melompat menyesali masa lalu, atau melayang mengkhawatirkan masa depan. Sangat sedikit kita berpikir tentang saat ini, kecuali untuk tugas-tugas kantor atau akademis.

Kata ‘kekinian’ semakin rancu saat memasuki dunia media sosial, seperti juga banyak suku kata lainnya yang telah rusak atau kehilangan makna sebenarnya setelah masuk ke dunia maya jauh sebelumnya.

Padahal menurut penelitian lainnya, otak manusia hanya mampu berfokus pada satu hal di satu waktu. Betapa banyak kita menyiakan waktu untuk berpikir tentang hal yang tak menentu.

Aliran informasi begitu deras tanpa mampu kita bendung. Setiap menit informasi selalu terupdate, baik di dunia nyata maupun di dunia maya. Respon pikiran kita akan informasi-informasi yang masuk bisa menentukan kadar happy atau kadar stress diri kita. Seringkali mengabaikan aliran informasi dari luar adalah auto-respon yang terbaik.

Pikiran adalah sahabat terbaik yang kita miliki (atau juga musuh terburuk). Pikiran selalu menemani kita saat sendiri, atau saat bersosialisasi. Pikiran dapat membuat kita tidur nyenyak, ataupun tak dapat tidur. Pikiran mampu membuat kita tertawa dan juga menangis, bahkan bergantian dalam waktu yang sangat berdekatan.

Lalu apa yang mampu kita perbuat agar selalu bisa mengontrol pikiran kita? Jawabannya sederhana, walau prakteknya tidak sederhana. Selalu eling lan waspada, selalu sadar untuk sadar.

Berbagai macam agama atau keyakinan sudah mengajarkannya masing-masing. Agama Islam misalnya, menganjurkan untuk selalu berdzikir (menyebut nama Allah) baik dalam keadaan duduk, berdiri, maupun berbaring.

Namun lagi-lagi, lebih mudah mengingat landasan teorinya dibandingkan dengan mengingat untuk selalu mempraktekkannya.

Hidup kita sangat dinamis, seperti saat sedang bermain di tepi pantai. Terkadang kita berlari panik karena ada ubur-ubur beracun mendekati, dan terkadang kita terlena karena melihat putri duyung yang cantik di pulau seberang sana. Seketika pikiran bisa lepas meninggalkan tugas yang telah diberikan (berdzikir).

Karena kehidupan ini adalah semesta kemungkinan, maka setiap hal adalah mungkin terjadi dan mungkin dilakukan walau di tengah badai kesukaran.

Apa yang bisa kita lakukan? Tidak lain adalah berusaha dan berusaha. Mencoba dan mencoba, kata si debbydebby.

Berusaha untuk selalu sadar, berusaha untuk selalu berpikir kekinian, berusaha untuk selalu memegang kendali atas pikiran kita.

Atau satu cara lainnya adalah dengan rutin duduk bermeditasi beberapa puluh menit setiap hari, sambil mengucapkan secara terus menerus salah satu contoh affirmasi: “Aku adalah Tuan Atas Pikiranku Sendiri”.

Sang Tanah; Melankolis Plegmatis?

Konon Sang Tanah bersifat melankolis & plegmatis; perfectionist, detail, ekonomis, damai, teduh, santai, dapat diandalkan.

Sang tanah nyaris tak pernah marah. Setianya kebangetan, sabarnya kelewatan, ikhlasnya tiada lawan.

Hanya memberi, tak harap kembali.

Bahkan, semakin diinjak semakin gembur, semakin dibajak semakin subur. Dikencingi & diberaki sapi, semakin makmur.

Dan tanah, semakin hari semakin langka, semakin mahal.

Yuk, beli tanah. :v

Perfectionist Flexible.

Manusia didesain mempunyai hati & otak, perasaan & pikiran supaya bisa menjalani hidup flexibel. Gak kaku.

Boleh perfectionis, tapi harus flexible.

Manusia didesain demikian supaya bisa beradaptasi dengan lingkungan, beradaptasi dengan keadaan. Bukan menyerah, tapi gak selamanya harus melawan mati-matian.

Menyesuaikan itu penting, menyesuaikan dengan lingkungan, menyesuaikan dengan keadaan, menyesuaikan tanpa harus terbawa arus. Bukan mengikuti arus, bukan pula serta-merta melawan arus membabi-buta tak tentu arah, tapi mengikuti gerakan irama arusnya, supaya tak terlempar, supaya tak terluka, sambil terus dan tetap berusaha menggapai tujuan.

Boleh keras, tapi flexible. Harus punya pandangan luas, punya pikiran luas, punya hati juga luas. Gak terkurung di pikiran sendiri, di pandangan sendiri, atau di hati sendiri.
Harus bisa memandang lewat pandangan orang lain, lewat pikiran orang lain, bahkan perasaan orang lain.

Karna sesuatu yang keras, gampang patah, bahkan hancur, remuk.

Bahkan islam adalah agama yg flexible. Sesuatu yang haram bisa jadi halal pada situasi dan kondisi tertentu. Harusnya yang mengaku muslim juga demikian.

“Bukan beratnya beban yang menyakiti, seringkali cara memikul bebannya yang salah.”

Maaf bukan menggurui, sekedar mengingatkan.
Hidup sudah lama, masih kaku aja??

Thankful, Grateful.